spoiler: every day is today

Please permit me, as I cross the threshold of my mid-thirties, pretending that that has meaning, to share some things.

  • Rejecting the condition of being in a state of readiness to start anything. I have a bike that I got for £20 off Gumtree with CONFIDENCE emblazoned along the down tube. The fact that it’s stationary makes me laugh a bit too hard.

  • Accepting that I will always have a tendency towards intense sensation, in any direction. Recently, I’ve been rubbing any non-intimate skin with Tiger Balm - the red kind, no pussyfooting here - to get my kicks before bed.

  • Shaving my hair to a Grade Three twice to three times a year is the action related to my appearance that removes friction in my moment-to-moment experience of being in a body. Maybe it’s the exact opposite for you, that untouched long hair does the trick. I implore you to find out.

  • Letting the soft animal of my body love what it loves, whether that’s lifting heavy stuff for a fraction of a second or when my current birthday aligns with the same day of the week as my 0th birthday.

  • Trusting that just because I’m slow in winter, I’ve not suddenly become useless. I’m deciduous. Better service resumes in BST.

  • Concerning myself less with being a good, likeable, and successful person and more with being a kind, honest, and present person.

  • Ignoring thoughts that tell me not to reach out to other people because I or they are X or Y. They’re wrong, without fail.

  • Cultivating, “oh, woe,” to “oh, whoa!”

  • Feeling through feelings. It’s not news - but it’s happening.

  • Doing my darnedest to be in the day. This day. This one!

  • Forgiving myself for not managing any of the above.


Wednesday's Child

spoiler: every day is today